December 31 – The last day of the year. Depending on what kind of year 2014 has been, some of us will be celebrating because it is over, others of us will be celebrating because it was a wonderful year. So many times on this day in years past, I have made many promises to myself that starting tomorrow things would be different in my life. For the most part they were empty promises. It is not that I didn’t try to do the things on my list, I did try, and for a short time and I kept my promises to myself. Then slowly I would slip back into the same only bad habits.
The times that I have made positive changes in my life was when I broke things down into a manageable sizes and worked on it One Day At A Time. It did not matter if it was December 31 or July 31, the only hope of “changing the things I can” always happened when I approached it One Day At A Time.
For me personally, I had to have a plan. I may approach it One Day At A Time. But I had to have a plan. I had to know in my heart and in my mind what I wanted and I had to have an idea of how I was going to get there. It did not matter that there would be detours along the way, what mattered is that I had a goal and I had a plan. My plan always included recovery meetings and working my program. My meetings, sponsor, and my program were my accountability partners in my recovery journey.
There is an Ancient Chinese Proverb that says: “If we do not change our direction we are likely to end up where we are headed.” Sitting around waiting for the world to change so that we can be happy is not a good plan because we will just keep walking on that merry-go-round of misery.
Four years ago my son started a college program at 37. He was frustrated because he felt he had wasted a lot of years and here he was at 37 trying to restart his life. He moaned over the fact that his goal was 4 years away. I reminded him that if he did not go back to school that four years from now he would be in the same place he was right then. This December he graduated. He worked full time, even worked a lot of overtime, during the past four years while still going to school full time. I am so proud of him in every way. You see in February he will pick up his 12 year sobriety chip in AA. At 27 I was fearful that he would not live to be 37.
All of these things happened for my son One Day At A Time. He made a decision and he had a plan. A plan to live Sober One Day At A Time. He did this by going to meetings, working with a sponsor and working the steps. Once he cleared the cobwebs from his mind he started making plans for his future and went back to school. He had a plan.
Resolutions are important. Did you know that resolution means two things. It is a firm decision to do, or not do, something and it is also an action to solve a problem. The answer is in the word itself. Make a decision and have a plan.